| Grief is Personal © Ferna Lary Mills |
Your grief is very personal. It's yours and yours alone. You will deal with it in your own
way, and in your own time. Sure, others will have lots of advice on the things you
should do to try to overcome this sudden void in your life. Unfortunately, most of it is
monkey advice, given by those who have absolutely no real idea what you're going
through. The truth is, grief is personal and you must handle at your own pace and on
your own terms.
You're filled with so many emotions, ranging from despair to anger, from tears to rage.
But how you deal with these emotions is your own personal quest. Someone you love
is no longer going to be active in your life. They are gone, and nothing you can do is
going to bring them back. That's the aching reality of it all.
As you choose your way through the darkness and despair, trying to put some
meaning and purpose back into your life, I can only suggest a few things that have
helped others, and have helped me. I hope these tips can be of help to you as well.
First, understand that your grief is real, even though everything may have an "unreal"
feeling to it. It's not something you are used to or were prepared for. Accept it as real,
even though sometimes reality can really bite.
Spend some time alone in your thoughts so you can express your grief in ways that
only you can do, without worrying about what others may think. Take some time out of
your life to get a grip on your feelings. After awhile (you must decide when) there will
come a time that you will realize you are not an island. Although you have come face
to face with the fact that your loved one is no longer with you, you were not meant to
walk alone in this world.
Sometimes the hardest part of recovery is reaching out. Let others into your life. A
good friend isn't hard to find if you reach out to them. Let them share your burden, be
a shoulder you can lean on, and something in your life with some solid stability to it.
Remember your loved one in a special way, whether it's a donation to a charity, a
memorial, or a new tradition you create in their honor. Another way to find true healing,
is to help others, even though this may seem like the hardest part. Although you must
get on with your life, there is no reason to "forget" your loved one, as they are and will
always be a very important part of who you are and who you have become. Spend a
little time each day remembering the good times you shared.
Spend time in prayer. God will help mend your broken heart and will lead and guide
you to find that purpose left in your life. He still has wonderful things in store for you in
this life. Read the scriptures and seek that peace "that surpasseth all understanding".
True healing will begin when you spend time with someone greater than yourself.
As dark as it seems now, there will come a day when your grief will no longer
overpower you. You will rise with a strength you didn't even know you possessed, and
you WILL live again. In time, you will even smile again.
May God bless you and be with you every step of the way.
way, and in your own time. Sure, others will have lots of advice on the things you
should do to try to overcome this sudden void in your life. Unfortunately, most of it is
monkey advice, given by those who have absolutely no real idea what you're going
through. The truth is, grief is personal and you must handle at your own pace and on
your own terms.
You're filled with so many emotions, ranging from despair to anger, from tears to rage.
But how you deal with these emotions is your own personal quest. Someone you love
is no longer going to be active in your life. They are gone, and nothing you can do is
going to bring them back. That's the aching reality of it all.
As you choose your way through the darkness and despair, trying to put some
meaning and purpose back into your life, I can only suggest a few things that have
helped others, and have helped me. I hope these tips can be of help to you as well.
First, understand that your grief is real, even though everything may have an "unreal"
feeling to it. It's not something you are used to or were prepared for. Accept it as real,
even though sometimes reality can really bite.
Spend some time alone in your thoughts so you can express your grief in ways that
only you can do, without worrying about what others may think. Take some time out of
your life to get a grip on your feelings. After awhile (you must decide when) there will
come a time that you will realize you are not an island. Although you have come face
to face with the fact that your loved one is no longer with you, you were not meant to
walk alone in this world.
Sometimes the hardest part of recovery is reaching out. Let others into your life. A
good friend isn't hard to find if you reach out to them. Let them share your burden, be
a shoulder you can lean on, and something in your life with some solid stability to it.
Remember your loved one in a special way, whether it's a donation to a charity, a
memorial, or a new tradition you create in their honor. Another way to find true healing,
is to help others, even though this may seem like the hardest part. Although you must
get on with your life, there is no reason to "forget" your loved one, as they are and will
always be a very important part of who you are and who you have become. Spend a
little time each day remembering the good times you shared.
Spend time in prayer. God will help mend your broken heart and will lead and guide
you to find that purpose left in your life. He still has wonderful things in store for you in
this life. Read the scriptures and seek that peace "that surpasseth all understanding".
True healing will begin when you spend time with someone greater than yourself.
As dark as it seems now, there will come a day when your grief will no longer
overpower you. You will rise with a strength you didn't even know you possessed, and
you WILL live again. In time, you will even smile again.
May God bless you and be with you every step of the way.
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