| Some Assembly Required © Ferna Lary Mills |
Simply put: Grief is the result of loss.
It can be from the loss of something as simple as losing your car keys, to something as
devastating as losing a spouse or a child. Grief hits us all at one time or another, to
some degree or another. None of us are immune.
Hurricane Katrina hit America, not just the Gulf coast. Many have lost beloved family
and friends, many have lost jobs, many have lost homes and all their earthly
possessions. The rest of America grieves for those who have suffered such a great
loss in this catastrophe. We also grieve for our own lost sense of security, as we are
reminded that our own lives could change in a moment, depending on the next
catastrophe.
That being said, what can we do to move on from this? Whether you have been
displaced by Hurricane Katrina, or whether you have lost a loved one, there is "Life
After Loss". It may be a much different life, but it is your life, and well worth living.
For those whose homes and businesses were destroyed, as well as those of us who
have lost loved ones, there's a rebuilding process required. God has a reason we are
still walking around on this planet. So, we must put back together the pieces of our life
so we can get on with living. (Note, I do not say anywhere that this is going to be an
easy task.)
Your life before your loss consisted of .... what? Your life now consists of ... what?
Compare those two for a moment (it won't take long!) and figure out what is left that
remains the SAME. Now, realize that nothing you can do or say or build or dream will
ever make your life exactly the same as it was before your loss. Nothing. But don't
concentrate on what is lost. Concentrate on what is the same. If you've lost all your
earthly possessions, loved ones, jobs, and more, then you may think not much
remains the same. But you still have a lot inside of you that is still the same, even if
everything else around you has changed. What is inside of you that makes you
unique? What makes you "YOU"? Concentrate on that.
Your home, your job, your loved ones, didn't make you "YOU". They may have
complimented you, motivated you, loved you, sustained you, or protected you, but
they didn't make you "YOU". That being said, your task now is to take what remains of
YOU and rebuild. You aren't rebuilding yourself, but rebuilding the world where you
now reside.
If a picture is worth 1,000 words, let me paint a picture with this analogy. Anytime you
build or repair an item, like a bicycle, car, model airplane, etc., the first thing you
should do is read the directions.
Rebuilding your life is a monumental task, but the process is the same. To build a new
life for you (or for you and your family), you have to start with the pieces of what is left
and go from there. So first, read the directions!
"What directions?" you ask.
The Bible is God's instruction manual for living. Spend some time reading His word
and find the "direction" for your life. Spend some time in prayer and ask that He give
you the strength, the wisdom, and the understanding to know what you should do, one
step at a time. He has a process that works, if you follow it.
As important as reading the instruction manual, listen to His still, gentle voice for
guidance. It's like having the Master Mechanic guiding you, step by step. You don't
have to rebuild alone, and only He knows where all the pieces go if you want to truly
build it right!
Now, as in every building project, you will find the infamous words: some assembly
required. Rebuilding your life is the same. No, not assembly of actual pieces or parts,
but assembly. It's critical that you meet regularly with other Christians to share your
grief, to assemble in groups to receive blessings to your spirit, to give you hope and
strength. There is power in the Holy Spirit that can fill you only when you are
assembled in numbers. Find a church or Christian group where you can worship
regularly. There, you will find food for your soul.
Above all else, move! For some of you this may mean miles, for others, only inches.
But move as close to Jesus as you possibly can. He promises to never leave you or
forsake you, and by His strength alone will you find the strength and the courage to
undertake this massive rebuilding process.
May God bless you and comfort you and give you Peace. ~Ferna
It can be from the loss of something as simple as losing your car keys, to something as
devastating as losing a spouse or a child. Grief hits us all at one time or another, to
some degree or another. None of us are immune.
Hurricane Katrina hit America, not just the Gulf coast. Many have lost beloved family
and friends, many have lost jobs, many have lost homes and all their earthly
possessions. The rest of America grieves for those who have suffered such a great
loss in this catastrophe. We also grieve for our own lost sense of security, as we are
reminded that our own lives could change in a moment, depending on the next
catastrophe.
That being said, what can we do to move on from this? Whether you have been
displaced by Hurricane Katrina, or whether you have lost a loved one, there is "Life
After Loss". It may be a much different life, but it is your life, and well worth living.
For those whose homes and businesses were destroyed, as well as those of us who
have lost loved ones, there's a rebuilding process required. God has a reason we are
still walking around on this planet. So, we must put back together the pieces of our life
so we can get on with living. (Note, I do not say anywhere that this is going to be an
easy task.)
Your life before your loss consisted of .... what? Your life now consists of ... what?
Compare those two for a moment (it won't take long!) and figure out what is left that
remains the SAME. Now, realize that nothing you can do or say or build or dream will
ever make your life exactly the same as it was before your loss. Nothing. But don't
concentrate on what is lost. Concentrate on what is the same. If you've lost all your
earthly possessions, loved ones, jobs, and more, then you may think not much
remains the same. But you still have a lot inside of you that is still the same, even if
everything else around you has changed. What is inside of you that makes you
unique? What makes you "YOU"? Concentrate on that.
Your home, your job, your loved ones, didn't make you "YOU". They may have
complimented you, motivated you, loved you, sustained you, or protected you, but
they didn't make you "YOU". That being said, your task now is to take what remains of
YOU and rebuild. You aren't rebuilding yourself, but rebuilding the world where you
now reside.
If a picture is worth 1,000 words, let me paint a picture with this analogy. Anytime you
build or repair an item, like a bicycle, car, model airplane, etc., the first thing you
should do is read the directions.
Rebuilding your life is a monumental task, but the process is the same. To build a new
life for you (or for you and your family), you have to start with the pieces of what is left
and go from there. So first, read the directions!
"What directions?" you ask.
The Bible is God's instruction manual for living. Spend some time reading His word
and find the "direction" for your life. Spend some time in prayer and ask that He give
you the strength, the wisdom, and the understanding to know what you should do, one
step at a time. He has a process that works, if you follow it.
As important as reading the instruction manual, listen to His still, gentle voice for
guidance. It's like having the Master Mechanic guiding you, step by step. You don't
have to rebuild alone, and only He knows where all the pieces go if you want to truly
build it right!
Now, as in every building project, you will find the infamous words: some assembly
required. Rebuilding your life is the same. No, not assembly of actual pieces or parts,
but assembly. It's critical that you meet regularly with other Christians to share your
grief, to assemble in groups to receive blessings to your spirit, to give you hope and
strength. There is power in the Holy Spirit that can fill you only when you are
assembled in numbers. Find a church or Christian group where you can worship
regularly. There, you will find food for your soul.
Above all else, move! For some of you this may mean miles, for others, only inches.
But move as close to Jesus as you possibly can. He promises to never leave you or
forsake you, and by His strength alone will you find the strength and the courage to
undertake this massive rebuilding process.
May God bless you and comfort you and give you Peace. ~Ferna
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Life After Loss |