Recently, we had an occurrence in our church that many other churches across the
country - and indeed - across the world experience: the sudden and unexpected death
of one of our most active deacons, a man of 61 years in the prime of his church work
and asking for more responsibility.
At the memorial service for the deacon, the pastor chose Death and Resurrection as
the basis of his homily. He described the occasion as one of utter sadness in the loss
of a husband, father, and brother of the family. Our minister beautifully and forcefully
described the grief of Christ upon learning of the death of his beloved friend and
follower, Lazarus, and how he lamented loudly that this couldn't be true! And because
Christ couldn't bear the death of his friend, Lazarus was raised from death and
restored to life. Christ told him that when his time did come finally, that he would go to
be with Himself and His Father in Heaven forever.
The minister continued describing the grief of Christ again when He learned of His own
impending death by crucifixion at Golgotha. He also lamented loudly in the Garden of
Gethsemane to His Father,"Why have You allowed this to come to me? Take it away
from me." In the end, Christ drank the cup of bitterness and death and said, "So be it.
Thy will be done." When His strength ran out, He proclaimed, "It is finished." Christ had
finally known the very reason He was sent to earth: To live, teach, die and be
resurrected in payment for man's sins against God.
You may think that both those incidents in Christ's life were unbelievably cruel, and
that being Christ, He could have prevented both of their occurrences. He could have,
but He had faith in the unalterable majesty and wisdom of God, His Father over all
things in Heaven and earth, even His own death. Because He knew that Resurrection
would follow and He would be in Paradise before the blink of an eye when His life
ceased.
In one recounting of events following the death of our friend and deacon, our minister
stated that if you looked at the candles on the Altar, you would see them burning
brightly, but for Sunday evening services, after our Christian brother had passed, the
candles went out! Nothing earthshaking was going to happen; nothing would be
changed in the conduct of services at our church; the candles would be lit again and
be as before. The reason they went out was that Tom was not there to tend them as
he always had. But now, this morning at his memorial service, he didn't care about
candles being lit, or any other church responsibility! He was in the presence of God in
Heaven blissfully happy to be there! He had already been resurrected!
Our pastor restated the fact that our deacon was resurrected and followed Christ into
Paradise in an instant after his own death. Both would demonstrate again, although
two thousand years apart, the wonder of God's promise to mankind delivered through
Christ: "All of you who believe on me will be saved from eternal death to ascend into
Heaven where a city of inexplicable beauty is being prepared for your arrival to dwell in
your Father's house with Jesus Christ and all the angels forever and ever."
Then our minister reminded us that for Christians and believers, the day of death is
also a day of victory over death and the most wondrous ecstasy that one can only
imagine. What a glorious thing to imagine our loved ones waiting for us in a beautiful
city, a fantastic home that Our Heavenly Father has erected for our arrival!
So the commemoration of a loved one who has only just died IS a very sad event, and
one that we must grieve. It is a very selfish grieving as we will be denied their presence
in our daily lives. We cannot do as Jesus did with Lazarus and because we cannot
bear the absence of our loved one, we will bring them back out of death to life again!
Only Christ had and still has that power!
What we CAN do is believe and trust in God's promise delivered through Christ who
was crucified and resurrected for our sins. We CAN celebrate our loved one's victory
over death as we someday will do also. Isn't that a wondrously beautiful thing to
imagine and look forward to? Sure we grieve the loss of our beloved, but at the same
time, deep in our heart of hearts, we should celebrate and rejoice at the going Home of
our dear ones. They will no longer experience sickness, pain and suffering with the ills
of this world that we live in today. They are "Home Free" to live eternally in unutterable
joy while they await our coming as well.
So my friends who are grieving the loss of a family member, dear friend, or other,
consider that at the same second as your loved one exhaled the last breath of life on
this earth, they were taking their first breath in the presence of God, The Father,
Christ, the Son and the Holy Spirit in Heaven! What a reason to rejoice and celebrate!
They will have been resurrected even as Jesus Christ was on the Cross. And He
promised, "Today you will be with me in Paradise." Praise be to God!
And if you are grieving a loved one who has left you behind to follow later, rest in God's
arms and ask for peace that passes all understanding, and you will be given it in
Christ's name. Temper your sadness with the knowledge that your loved one has been
resurrected and is at this very moment alive in Christ in Heaven with God.
May your fears, sadness and hurts be taken away and replaced by that blessed peace.
country - and indeed - across the world experience: the sudden and unexpected death
of one of our most active deacons, a man of 61 years in the prime of his church work
and asking for more responsibility.
At the memorial service for the deacon, the pastor chose Death and Resurrection as
the basis of his homily. He described the occasion as one of utter sadness in the loss
of a husband, father, and brother of the family. Our minister beautifully and forcefully
described the grief of Christ upon learning of the death of his beloved friend and
follower, Lazarus, and how he lamented loudly that this couldn't be true! And because
Christ couldn't bear the death of his friend, Lazarus was raised from death and
restored to life. Christ told him that when his time did come finally, that he would go to
be with Himself and His Father in Heaven forever.
The minister continued describing the grief of Christ again when He learned of His own
impending death by crucifixion at Golgotha. He also lamented loudly in the Garden of
Gethsemane to His Father,"Why have You allowed this to come to me? Take it away
from me." In the end, Christ drank the cup of bitterness and death and said, "So be it.
Thy will be done." When His strength ran out, He proclaimed, "It is finished." Christ had
finally known the very reason He was sent to earth: To live, teach, die and be
resurrected in payment for man's sins against God.
You may think that both those incidents in Christ's life were unbelievably cruel, and
that being Christ, He could have prevented both of their occurrences. He could have,
but He had faith in the unalterable majesty and wisdom of God, His Father over all
things in Heaven and earth, even His own death. Because He knew that Resurrection
would follow and He would be in Paradise before the blink of an eye when His life
ceased.
In one recounting of events following the death of our friend and deacon, our minister
stated that if you looked at the candles on the Altar, you would see them burning
brightly, but for Sunday evening services, after our Christian brother had passed, the
candles went out! Nothing earthshaking was going to happen; nothing would be
changed in the conduct of services at our church; the candles would be lit again and
be as before. The reason they went out was that Tom was not there to tend them as
he always had. But now, this morning at his memorial service, he didn't care about
candles being lit, or any other church responsibility! He was in the presence of God in
Heaven blissfully happy to be there! He had already been resurrected!
Our pastor restated the fact that our deacon was resurrected and followed Christ into
Paradise in an instant after his own death. Both would demonstrate again, although
two thousand years apart, the wonder of God's promise to mankind delivered through
Christ: "All of you who believe on me will be saved from eternal death to ascend into
Heaven where a city of inexplicable beauty is being prepared for your arrival to dwell in
your Father's house with Jesus Christ and all the angels forever and ever."
Then our minister reminded us that for Christians and believers, the day of death is
also a day of victory over death and the most wondrous ecstasy that one can only
imagine. What a glorious thing to imagine our loved ones waiting for us in a beautiful
city, a fantastic home that Our Heavenly Father has erected for our arrival!
So the commemoration of a loved one who has only just died IS a very sad event, and
one that we must grieve. It is a very selfish grieving as we will be denied their presence
in our daily lives. We cannot do as Jesus did with Lazarus and because we cannot
bear the absence of our loved one, we will bring them back out of death to life again!
Only Christ had and still has that power!
What we CAN do is believe and trust in God's promise delivered through Christ who
was crucified and resurrected for our sins. We CAN celebrate our loved one's victory
over death as we someday will do also. Isn't that a wondrously beautiful thing to
imagine and look forward to? Sure we grieve the loss of our beloved, but at the same
time, deep in our heart of hearts, we should celebrate and rejoice at the going Home of
our dear ones. They will no longer experience sickness, pain and suffering with the ills
of this world that we live in today. They are "Home Free" to live eternally in unutterable
joy while they await our coming as well.
So my friends who are grieving the loss of a family member, dear friend, or other,
consider that at the same second as your loved one exhaled the last breath of life on
this earth, they were taking their first breath in the presence of God, The Father,
Christ, the Son and the Holy Spirit in Heaven! What a reason to rejoice and celebrate!
They will have been resurrected even as Jesus Christ was on the Cross. And He
promised, "Today you will be with me in Paradise." Praise be to God!
And if you are grieving a loved one who has left you behind to follow later, rest in God's
arms and ask for peace that passes all understanding, and you will be given it in
Christ's name. Temper your sadness with the knowledge that your loved one has been
resurrected and is at this very moment alive in Christ in Heaven with God.
May your fears, sadness and hurts be taken away and replaced by that blessed peace.
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